April 6, 2013

Mother's Alzheimer's needs prompt Oakland siblings to start care facility

By Matt Hongoltz-Hetling mhhetling@centralmaine.com
Staff Writer

OAKLAND — Rather than place their mother, who suffers from Alzheimer's disease, into an institution, two Oakland siblings have made helping family into the family business.

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Martha Fabian, far left, dances with Debi Braun, alongside June Meres and Maribeth Beland, far right, in the dayroom at Bedside Manor on Belgrade Road in Oakland on Wednesday. Fabian and Meres are both residents at the 10-bed Alzheimer's care facility in Oakland, operated by Fabian's son, E.J Fabian, and daughter, Julie Benecke.

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Julie Benecke offers a comforting hand to her mother, Martha Fabian, at Bedside Manor on Belgrade Road in Oakland on Wednesday.

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When E.J. Fabian and his sister, Julie Benecke, found themselves unable to care for their aging mother in her Belgrade home, they decided to start their own 10-bed Alzheimer's care facility, a move a state advocate called a unique solution to a growing need for elder care in Maine.

Benecke and Fabian are among tens of thousands of Maine residents directly affected by Alzheimer's disease, a form of dementia in which dying or malfunctioning brain cells change someone's memory, behavior and ability to think clearly.

Their mother, Martha Fabian, 74, who they call Gram, is one of 25,000 Maine seniors who suffer from Alzheimer's, according to a 2013 report from the Alzheimer's Association, a national advocacy group.

Because Maine's population is one of the oldest in the nation, more of its residents die from the fatal disease. The rate of death in the state is 37.8 people per 100,000, one of the highest rates in the country and far above the national average of 27 deaths per 100,000, according to the report.

Caring for those with Alzheimer's is a large burden for families and taxpayers alike.

In Maine, 68,000 people, mostly family members like the Fabians, spent 77 million hours, valued at $951 million, providing care to Alzheimer's sufferers in 2012, according to the report.

Long before deciding to open their own facility, Benecke, Fabian and other family members began devoting their own time keeping Gram, then just 60, out of a facility.

Fabian noticed that his mother began repeating questions in conversations. The frequency of his mother's repetitive questions became a barometer of her illness, he said.

During a period of years, the illness progressed to the point that she sometimes asked the same question a dozen times within a half hour.

When it became clear that Gram no longer could live on her own safely, Benecke and her husband took her into their home, an arrangement that lasted for three years.

In 2012, Benecke said, it got to the point that they could no longer care for her safely.

When Benecke went with Fabian to take Gram to an assisted-living facility, she called it the worst day of Beneke's life.

The drama that unfolded in the Fabian family is not unusual, said Brenda Gallant, the state's Long-Term Care Ombudsman.

"There are Maine families out there that are very dedicated and devoted to taking care of their families, and some of them are making valiant efforts to keep them in their home," she said.

Keeping families together is more difficult, Gallant said, because funding for in-home and adult day-care services for those facing cognitive impairment, including Alzheimer's, is inadequate.

Without a robust range of support services available to them, more seniors are forced to leave their homes for residential care more quickly, Gallant said.

The problem is that the residential care industry in Maine isn't able to handle the current demand.

"Throughout the state, there are waiting lists for residential care," she said. "These waiting lists have been ongoing and have been a reality in the state over a number of years."

Unless something changes, the gap between the demand and services will grow as the number of people with Alzheimer's increases. Between now and 2025, just 12 years from now, the national population of affected people is expected to increase from 5 million to 7 million.

Direct health care costs associated with Alzheimer's will also rise, according to the report, which is bad news for taxpayers, who foot most of the bill through Medicare and Medicaid. The current annual cost, $203 billion, averages out to $644 for every man, woman and child in the country.

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June Meres, left center, an Alzheimer's patient at Bedside Manor, tries to pull Julie Benecke, right, from her office for a walk around the facility on Belgrade Road in Oakland on Wednesday. In the background, Martha Fabian, also a resident of Bedside Manor, walks the halls with care attendant Maribeth Beland.

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Scott McManaman, director at Bedside Manor, plays a duet of "Chopsticks" with resident Martha Fabian at Bedside Manor on Belgrade Road in Oakland on Wednesday.

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Scott McManaman gently helps Martha Fabian play "Chopsticks" on the keyboard, at Bedside Manor on Belgrade Road in Oakland on Wednesday.

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Martha Fabian sits in her room at Bedside Manor on Belgrade Road in Oakland on Wednesday.

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Scott McManaman, right, plays ball with Martha Fabian at Bedside Manor on Belgrade Road in Oakland on Wednesday.

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June Meres, left center, and Martha Fabian, right center, both Alzheimer's patients at Bedside Manor on Belgrade Road in Oakland, visit with Christine Pillsbury, far right, under the supervision of care attendant Maribeth Beland, far left, on Wednesday.

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Christine Pillsbury, left, gives her friend, Martha Fabian, a kiss on the cheek after a visit at Bedside Manor on Belgrade Road in Oakland on Wednesday.

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June Meres, left, grabs the hand of visitor Christine Pillsbury, as Meres roams the halls at Bedside Manor on Belgrade Road in Oakland on Wednesday.

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