http://www.kjonline.com/r?19=960&32=10357&7=-1&40=http%3A%2F%2Fkjonline.com Kennebec Journal Real Life en-us Sat, 04 Sep 2010 23:26:01 GMT 2010-09-04T23:26:01Z en-us http://www.kjonline.com/r?19=961&43=607002&44=102229689&32=10357&7=646199&40=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.kjonline.com%2Freallife%2Frelationship-isnt-going-to-workif-you-dont-trust-your-girlfriend_2010-09-04.html I feel horrible. I flipped out on my girlfriend because I suspected she was cheated on me. Before all of this happened, she gave me her info so I could log on to her Facebook account. So I did, just to check on her and make sure no guys are messing with her. So I get on and see a chat between her and my friend's younger brother talking about meeting each other. Quote from her to the guy: "We need to meet up sometime. Can we go? Just us?" This really scared me. And yes, it's wrong for me to get into her privacy. But I love her very much and will do anything to protect her. Is she cheating? I called her and asked her what's up with this guy, and she said that they are "just friends." Although I love her very much, I have heard things about her past relationships and how she cheats at times. I really need to know what to do. She constantly tells me she loves me, but I just can't trust her, and that breaks my heart. And as a 16-year-old guy, that's hard for me to say, but it's true. Sat, 04 Sep 2010 23:26:01 GMT b5486895be1e6fa9bbccb6e6656d7274 Kennebec Journal Staff 2010-09-04T23:26:01Z http://www.kjonline.com/r?19=961&43=607002&44=102229674&32=10357&7=646199&40=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.kjonline.com%2Freallife%2Fgrandpas-favoritism-will-hurtthe-rest-of-his-grandchildren_2010-09-04.html Dear Annie: My husband and I have four grandchildren under the age of 12. My stepson is the father of all these children, although the eldest, "Sara," is from an earlier relationship and lives with her mother. Sara rarely sees my stepson, so we have tried to fill that void by being especially close to her. Sat, 04 Sep 2010 23:25:57 GMT 125bf05383cace4274a5eede484cd3d1 Kennebec Journal Staff 2010-09-04T23:25:57Z http://www.kjonline.com/r?19=961&43=607002&44=102229664&32=10357&7=646199&40=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.kjonline.com%2Freallife%2Fconnollys-dark-vision-adds-rich-foundation-to-the-whisperers_2010-09-04.html Sat, 04 Sep 2010 23:25:54 GMT a7315ed02b9d217c8a4d363c9c0cdca1 BY OLINE H. COGDILL 2010-09-04T23:25:54Z http://www.kjonline.com/r?19=961&43=607002&44=102229659&32=10357&7=646199&40=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.kjonline.com%2Freallife%2Fgerritsensheroineshead-to-wyoming_2010-09-04.html Sat, 04 Sep 2010 23:25:52 GMT 60918ebf66f97701a002c38fe2154acd By Tess Gerritsen 2010-09-04T23:25:52Z http://www.kjonline.com/r?19=961&43=607002&44=102229649&32=10357&7=646199&40=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.kjonline.com%2Freallife%2Fgreener-pastures_2010-09-04.html A surgeon sat sipping coffee in the operating room lounge of a metropolitan hospital. Mask around her neck, cap still covering her red hair, she shifted her weary body to gaze out the smog-stained windows. She lifted her legs to the chair adjacent and watched the street-wise pigeons nesting under the eaves of the hospital roof, losing herself in thought. Was she wasting her time here? Was all this just a colossal squander? Was this the way her life was meant to be: a 60-hour week, week after week, diverting the flow of blood around the dietary excesses of another? Was she really happy with these huge sums of money, earning more than she could ever hope to have the time to spend? Must she endure this peculiar kind of boredom, performing what had now become, for her, a simple surgical procedure? Shouldn't she instead be in the trenches, using her surgical skills to help those who really had need of them? Sat, 04 Sep 2010 23:25:49 GMT 5d87667e60bd2aaaba4fa17d658ed292 Kennebec Journal Staff 2010-09-04T23:25:49Z http://www.kjonline.com/r?19=961&43=607002&44=102229614&32=10357&7=646199&40=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.kjonline.com%2Freallife%2Fhoney-bee-havenrefuge-designed-to-teach-about-agricultureslittle-helpers_2010-09-04.html SACRAMENTO, Calif. -- From tiny metallic green specks to giant black drones, bees have found their honey heaven on a slice of the University of California-Davis campus. Sat, 04 Sep 2010 23:25:39 GMT d8338e26301b0d038316b24121a8adb5 BY DEBBIE ARRINGTON 2010-09-04T23:25:39Z http://www.kjonline.com/r?19=961&43=607002&44=102229609&32=10357&7=646199&40=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.kjonline.com%2Freallife%2Fsweet-on-stevia-taste-testers-find-little-separates-the-plant-based-sugar-substitute-from-its-rivals_2010-09-04.html As stevia products vie for shelf space along with other sweeteners, the Free Press wanted to know how the plant-based sweetener stacks up. So, we tested a handful of no- or low-calorie sweeteners and sugar in an unscientific taste test of a plain cookie, ice tea and lemonade. Sat, 04 Sep 2010 23:25:37 GMT 7e679439b274ef693e86c7f9f9a5c518 BY SUSAN M. SELASKY 2010-09-04T23:25:37Z http://www.kjonline.com/r?19=961&43=607002&44=102229574&32=10357&7=646199&40=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.kjonline.com%2Freallife%2Ftheymake-nosense_2010-09-04.html That's what my friend asked me the other day as her 3-year-old son was rolling across the floor in the produce section at the local supermarket. Sat, 04 Sep 2010 23:25:31 GMT 99b2596ab39efe4ff01050554a09ad67 Kennebec Journal Staff 2010-09-04T23:25:31Z http://www.kjonline.com/r?19=961&43=607002&44=102229529&32=10357&7=646199&40=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.kjonline.com%2Freallife%2Ffoalingaroundmountain-view-arabians-gain-worldwide-recognition_2010-09-04.html MADISON -- Laurie Emery washed clean one of her Arabian yearling colts in the morning recently, but a few hours later he was covered in mud from playing with his water bowl. Sat, 04 Sep 2010 23:25:18 GMT 761afb183dc6c4635092b832c1f77e00 BY ERIN RHODA Staff Writer 2010-09-04T23:25:18Z http://www.kjonline.com/r?19=961&43=607002&44=102229524&32=10357&7=646199&40=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.kjonline.com%2Freallife%2Fautumn-a-great-time-for-renovating-lawns_2010-09-04.html The best time for renovations to your lawn and garden are late summer and early fall -- usually from about Aug. 20 to Oct. 5, when the summer temperatures have dropped and the rains begin. Sat, 04 Sep 2010 23:25:16 GMT 9d1906a42b5e83bfeb8094ca33badbc2 Kennebec Journal Staff 2010-09-04T23:25:16Z http://www.kjonline.com/r?19=961&43=607002&44=102229519&32=10357&7=646199&40=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.kjonline.com%2Freallife%2Flocal-music-series-continues-with-guitarist-jeff-pevar_2010-09-04.html READFIELD -- World-class musician Jeff Pevar is returning to central Maine for his first concert appearance in two years. Sat, 04 Sep 2010 23:25:14 GMT fd824acac6843c5657ff7d758d2d8b8c Kennebec Journal Staff 2010-09-04T23:25:14Z http://www.kjonline.com/r?19=961&43=607002&44=101728478&32=10357&7=646199&40=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.kjonline.com%2Freallife%2Fvampire-academyis-on-hollywoods-radar_2010-08-28.html Richelle Mead doesn't think she is much like Rose Hathaway, the tough, sarcastic 17-year-old heroine of "Vampire Academy." Mon, 30 Aug 2010 16:58:08 GMT 7369535ae8fa2b5e4ad2cf3d94c1dd1c BY JULIE HINDS 2010-08-30T16:58:08Z http://www.kjonline.com/r?19=961&43=607002&44=101728523&32=10357&7=646199&40=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.kjonline.com%2Freallife%2Fgame-playing-guy-looking-for-troublewith-untrusting-unhappy-girlfriend_2010-08-28.html Dear Annie: I love my girlfriend, "Candy," with all my heart. But I have issues with trust. I wanted to see if Candy would be faithful, so I created a fake online profile and sent her a message as "Jake." We started a conversation. When Jake suggested getting together, she quickly sent her phone number and asked him to call. I continued posing as Jake for three days. When Jake asked whether she planned to leave her boyfriend, she said, "Yes." The kicker? She told Jake she was going to break up with her boyfriend because of trust issues. Mon, 30 Aug 2010 16:57:52 GMT bbe8df6e4147a7195eae575546e21702 Kennebec Journal Staff 2010-08-30T16:57:52Z http://www.kjonline.com/r?19=961&43=607002&44=101728548&32=10357&7=646199&40=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.kjonline.com%2Freallife%2Fthriller-writers-analyze-100-must-read-works_2010-08-28.html Mon, 30 Aug 2010 16:57:35 GMT 8e61381160a5e83da0e01a91effe1a0a BY WAKA TSUNODA 2010-08-30T16:57:35Z http://www.kjonline.com/r?19=961&43=607002&44=101728563&32=10357&7=646199&40=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.kjonline.com%2Freallife%2Ffresh-cilantro-flavor-unmatched_2010-08-28.html Cilantro is to Mexican food what fuel is to a race car -- an absolutely essential item. It in fact has become my grading factor in determining whether or not I like certain Mexican food restaurants and woe to the grocery store that fails to stock fresh cilantro for my home cooked fajitas and Pico de Gallo. Mon, 30 Aug 2010 16:57:24 GMT 8573ced36ae1b9d6bc10328d9a7b8d1b BY NORMAN WINTER 2010-08-30T16:57:24Z http://www.kjonline.com/r?19=961&43=607002&44=101728568&32=10357&7=646199&40=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.kjonline.com%2Freallife%2Fchildrens-cornerschool-themed-tales-include-the-junkyard-wonders_2010-08-28.html As kids head back to school, it's a perfect time to check out these new school-themed books: Mon, 30 Aug 2010 16:57:13 GMT 9c8b863aede2939441c41cf84cbbc34a BY KAREN MACPHERSON 2010-08-30T16:57:13Z http://www.kjonline.com/r?19=961&43=607002&44=101728603&32=10357&7=646199&40=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.kjonline.com%2Freallife%2Fparents-coping-strategy-causes-college-bound-kids-resentment_2010-08-28.html I am preparing to move in to UC Berkeley as a new freshman. My parents are having a very difficult time coping with this change. Normally, I'd help them along, but they seem to resent me because I am not struggling with letting go like they are. At times, we get engaged in a power struggle, with my parents reinforcing their "adultness" by talking down to me and taking charge in certain social situations where ordinarily I am just as capable of commanding an adult's respect. It is almost as if they want my life to stay on freeze-frame; their mantra seems to be that nothing needs to change, whether that is their relationship with me or my relationships with others. If my parents continue to try to take charge of me without showing me any respect when I am at college, what should I do? Mon, 30 Aug 2010 16:57:00 GMT ff70c4749eebe4ada15dc2f7cd88e0a7 Kennebec Journal Staff 2010-08-30T16:57:00Z http://www.kjonline.com/r?19=961&43=607002&44=101728623&32=10357&7=646199&40=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.kjonline.com%2Freallife%2Fbarth-daylilies-now-more-consistantly-available_2010-08-28.html Barth daylilies have a new home at O'Donal's Nursery in Gorham. Mon, 30 Aug 2010 16:56:48 GMT a06a9af3a7aa9010f1a4250040efa7c8 Kennebec Journal Staff 2010-08-30T16:56:48Z http://www.kjonline.com/r?19=961&43=607002&44=101806108&32=10357&7=646199&40=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.kjonline.com%2Freallife%2FNO-RESERVATIONS-Day-trippers-can-now-paddle-to-.html Mon, 30 Aug 2010 16:53:58 GMT c68a329da3b8374e3ac157cdac987cae Tony Ronzio 2010-08-30T16:53:58Z http://www.kjonline.com/r?19=961&43=607002&44=101806008&32=10357&7=646199&40=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.kjonline.com%2Freallife%2FPARTY-OF-TWO-Who-will-you-be-when-you-grow-up.html Mon, 30 Aug 2010 16:51:37 GMT 30a9cd7eda0cefb414d6e4b6d1bcaa7f Tony Ronzio 2010-08-30T16:51:37Z